Building Self Esteem
Building Self Esteem: What is self-esteem? Self-esteem is our beliefs about our self, how capable and loved we feel. It is our shield against life’s challenges. Of all the things we help our children learn and do, helping them to develop a healthy self-esteem is probably most important. Self-esteem affects all aspects of their lives – how they learn, how they interact with friends, how they treat others, how they problem solve, how they handle adversity, and how willing they are to try new things. Here are some tips to help your child develop a healthy self-esteem… Praise your child Notice when your child has done something well and tell them! Go easy on the criticism. They should hear 5 positives for every negative thing you say. Criticize the behavior When your child misbehaves, talk about the behavior, such as, “What you did was hurtful, and I know you are a nice kid. How can you make this better?” Do not label your child “bad.” Validate feelings If your child gets a blow to their self-esteem, they need you to allow them to feel sad, hurt, or mad. After, you can boost them up with positives. Give your child chores Children learn how to function in groups by learning how their own family cooperates. Set your child up to be a team player by giving age appropriate chores at home. Offer praise for their work! Give the gift of time Your children know how busy you are, so when you find 10 minutes to listen about their day or play a game, they will feel worthy and loved. The gift of time spent is worth much more than the gift of money spent. Avoid harmful comparisons Do not compare your child to others, especially siblings. Instead of saying, “Why can’t you be more like so-and-so?” try, “Do you notice that so andso does this?” Let your child know that it’s okay to be different, and that you don’t expect perfection.
The Counselor Corner:
Mrs. Paredes, School Psychologist & Ms. Sweeney, Social Worker